The Top 10 Traits of Difficult People...

#1. They’re Attention-seeking 

Think: Spotlight thieves who'd unapologetically grab the mic from a Grammy winner mid-speech

They're the friend who shows up fashionably late to every gathering, making a grand entrance like they're walking a red carpet, the gym buddy who grunts loudly during workouts, ensuring everyone notices their "intense" routine, or the coworker who derails every meeting with off-topic personal stories. They love being the center of attention and can often create drama out of thin air just to be in the spotlight.

#2. They're Disproportionately Angry

Think: Temper tantrums that could level a city in response to a lukewarm coffee

They're the driver who lays on the horn and flips you off for taking an extra second at a green light, the customer who explodes at a cashier because their expired coupon won't scan, or the neighbor who starts a shouting match because your lawn mower is too loud at 2 PM on a Saturday. Their fuse is shorter than a toddler's attention span, and they'll turn molehills into mountains faster than you can say "chill out" (if you’re brave enough to speak up).

#3. They're Excessively Self-Promoting

Think: Walking billboards for the “this is me” show

They're the parent who hijacks every PTA meeting to brag about their kid's "genius" macaroni art, or the colleague who somehow turns every water cooler chat into their personal TED talk. These people turn humble-bragging into an Olympic sport and they’re going for gold! They often exaggerate their accomplishments and downplay others', creating an atmosphere of constant competition. Their incessant self-promotion can leave you feeling inadequate, exhausted and suffering from a serious case of “comparison-itis”.

#4. They Lack Empathy

Think: Compassion-challenged emotional robot

They're the friend who responds to your breakup story with, "Well, at least you'll save money on dates now," or the coworker who rolls their eyes when you call in sick. They have no emotional depth and couldn't put themselves in your shoes if their life depended on it. Empathy is a language they don’t know how to speak.

#5. They're Disrespectful to Others

Think: Human bulldozers who flatten social decency like sandcastles

Got a father-in-law who snaps his fingers to get a waiter's attention, or a boss who talks over everyone in meetings like their voice is the only one that matters? These people consistently disregard others' feelings, boundaries, and basic human dignity. They treat people as objects, and use them as means to an end rather than individuals deserving of respect. Whether it's interrupting conversations, dismissing others' opinions, or simply being rude, they leave a trail of offended people in their wake.

#6. They Dismiss Others' Feelings

Think: Emotion erasers

They're the partner who brushes off your concerns with a, "You're overreacting," or the friend who tells you to "just get over it," when you're dealing with a loss. These people consistently invalidate others' emotions and experiences. They minimize your feelings, make you doubt your own reactions, and often leave you feeling worse after confiding in them. Their lack of emotional support can often make you feel isolated and misunderstood even when you’re with them.

#7. They Gaslight and Distort Reality

Think: Reality benders who'd convince you the sky is green and grass is blue

They're the partner who swears they never said that hurtful thing you clearly remember, or the boss who denies promising you a raise despite witnesses. These people consistently manipulate facts and memories to suit their narrative. They make you question your own perception of events, leaving you confused and doubting yourself. Over time, their constant reality distortion can erode your self-confidence and make you feel like you're losing your mind.

#8. They're Emotionally Unavailable

Think: Intimacy phobics who'd rather wrestle a bear than talk about their feelings

They're the partner who shuts down when you try to have a serious conversation, or the friend who changes the subject when things get deep. These people consistently avoid emotional intimacy and vulnerability, and struggle to engage in meaningful discussions about feelings or personal issues. Despite your efforts to connect on a deeper level, you often feel like you're hitting an invisible wall.

#9. They Avoid Taking Responsibility

Think: Blame-shifting ninjas

They're the coworker who misses deadlines and blames it on "unclear instructions," or the partner who never pulls their weight but always has an excuse. These people consistently dodge accountability for their actions and decisions. They're quick to point fingers at others or circumstances when things go wrong, but rarely acknowledge their own role in problems. This can leave you feeling guilty, frustrated and unnecessarily burdened, as you often end up picking up their slack or dealing with the consequences of their actions.

#10. They're Emotionally Draining

Think: Energy vampires who feed on other’s fuel

They're the friend whose constant negativity leaves you exhausted after every coffee date, or the family member who always has a new crisis that somehow becomes your problem. These people consistently deplete your emotional reserves. They often dominate conversations with their problems, rarely showing interest in your life or offering support in return. Their relentless neediness or negativity can leave you feeling drained and overwhelmed. After spending time with them, you often find yourself needing to recover - as if you've run an emotional marathon!

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